Confessions #2

If you read my post yesterday, you'll know that we're having a hard time adjusting to becoming a family of three. Running helps me keep my cool, it gives me the quiet alone time that I need so badly. Running clears my head.

Needless to say, I haven't run on a regular basis yet.

Last Saturday (after a terrible week - one death in the family and one death of a friend so close they should be family, heartbreaking layoffs at work and a teething 7 month old) I lost my $h!t. I was late for the funeral ceremony, couldn't find my black heels, and nervous about the funeral.

While I was rushing out the door I shouted to my Main Man, "The (breast)milk is thawing in the sink but you'll have to wash a bottle." To which I'm almost certain he replied, "I'm not washing any TRucking bottles." (except he didn't say trucking!) He claims that's not at all what he said but regardless of the situation...I flipped.

Let's just say my flip flops quickly left my feet, the keys ended up under the couch and my iPhone landed on the couch! I ended up sobbing because I was so mad at my Hubbie and so frustrated with myself and that I lost my cool.

What's the moral of my story?  

#1 - I need to run more.
#2 - I need to get my poop in a group. My online friend, Michelle, has her poop in a group - she's very zen! Check her blog out - seemommywork.wordpress.com/

Confessions #1

Going from a newly married couple (2 years anyway) to a family of three is hard work.  I envy anyone that can tell you they made the transition easily. There are all types of new arguments things to hash out discuss.

Some of our disagreements discussions center around:

• Who will change the poopy diaper?
• Who gets to help with bathtime?
• Who will warm up his food?
• Is Daddy expected to attend doctor's appointments? Which ones? 
• Who will use a sick day because Little Man is teething and miserable?
• Who will tell Grandma that Pooh is not cool?
• Who will do the dishes? If I'm watching the baby, I obviously can't...
• What time can you watch him so I can go running?
• Can't you turn that stupid movie off and focus on him?!
• When will get to have Mommy/Daddy alone time?
• Can't we please upgrade to a bigger car?
• What do you mean you can't get a bottle ready? I'm already 10 minutes late and I can't do it. You just do...

The battles seem endless and we've never had such a hard time getting along. Heck, we have a hard time remembering to be nice to one another most days.

One of my closest friends confessed to me that she wasn't sure she and her husband would make it after they had their beautiful baby girl.  She filled me in on how hard that first year was.

It really is. This has been the hardest 7 months of my life, but its getting easier. Not easy - easier - it will never be easy.  As I'm trying to type this post we're arguing - over if my blog writing is more important than Daddy's shower or not.


Did I mention that we argue so much my sister has expressed concern that we might divorce? Divorce hasn't crossed my mind though.  We'll work through this, it will make us stronger as a couple and better parents for our Little Man.  It took a long time to grow a baby and I don't expect to adjust instantly.


How did you adjust to your new life as a family of three? How did you decided who would do each job? Any tips you can offer are truly appreciated! We're a work in progress.